Slowly recovering after the market stuff. Exhausted and brain foggy and in a lot of pain. Especially my neck and shoulders. My doctor wants me to come off the patches again though. I don't know that I can.
Some fandom stuff and linksSherlock Holmes Subtext
This site goes through all of the original Sherlock Holmes stories and points out the subtext. I love it. Whether you think they are fucking or not they are in a co-dependant relationship.Samhain-Smut has started posting and there's some great stuff there so far
I don't tend to give out prizes for guessing what is mine in a fest as it's generally obvious. I did draw for this though.
I'm now working on stuff for Kinky Kristmas, Harry/Ron Reunion, H/R Holidays and Marvel Big Bang. Busy times but lots of fun. Just need to be able to sit upright long enough to paint them.
Art by reallycorking
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There's still time to whip up something quick for the Harry/Ron part of the Potter reunion November. I'm working on my art now. Can't forget my favourite boys.hrholidays
2014 Holiday Fest!
Prompting begins: October 8th
Claiming begins: October 18
Fanworks due: December 10
Join the community for more info!
Harry/Ron Holidays has got a small fest running for the holidays. Minimum is 1000 words so it's not too much to get done if you want to carry on your Potter love after the reunion.
Other linksLiving Gay in Papua New Guinea
(Warnings for mentions of homophobic violence) The documentary Guavas and Bananas: Living Gay in PNG has been screening as part of the fifth PNG Human Rights Film Festival. This article talks about the documentary but also about the gay and trans* community in Hanuabada. It is interesting to read that the gay culture in PNG is similar in a lot of ways to the stuff I was reading about New York queer culture in the 1920-1940s. It seems to be more based on gender roles rather than who you sleep with. They both talk about gay men/fairies(the term used in pre war NY) taking on female roles and modes of dress and other men being called straight men even though they are obviously sleeping with men. There is no line drawn between effeminate gay men and women who were born with male genitals so some terms used may sound offensive in our culture.
There was a hideous murder of a woman in Queensland. She was killed and cooked by her Chef husband. This is awful in and of itself but the disgusting way it was reported in one Queensland news paper makes me sick. If you follow me on twitter you would have seen me ranting about this already.
Warning for disgusting Trans* slurs and violence and a newspaper report making it sound like because she was trans and a sexworker she deserved it. This had nothing to do with being trans or her occupation. Her husband was a man who murdered and cooked his wife. How is that not sensational enough for them. Mayang Prasetyo caught the eye of a sadistic domestic abuser who isolated her from her family and friends and then murdered her. The Courier Mail’s report on a sickening crime has angered many readers with a shockingly transphobic “she male” headline on its front page today.
Also has links to an online petition calling for a public apology from the paper.Courier Mail does a piss poor job of apologising for transphobic slurs on it's front page
An editorial in today’s edition of the Courier Mail stopped short of making any sort of apology about its treatment of Mayang Prasetyo, simply stating that the paper had “no intention of diminishing the value of Mayang’s life, or to add to the grief being left by her family.”Out gay comedian Josh Thomas has challenged maverick Queensland MP Bob Katter about his views on gay people – even offering to put Grindr on his phone, just to prove gay people in northern Queensland actually exist!This article on how couples shouldn't become 'fused' was offensive and annoyed me
It seems a bit petty to go on about with some of the other things I've gone on about here but I need to close tabs and wont manage to post again just for this.
"When this couple first met they were separate individuals, but over time they have blended into one identity. They may now now unhealthily fused.
This fusion usually means they know exactly where each other is at every moment, they will not go anywhere without the other, they do not have separate friends, they have given up past interests to please the other and they compromise on all issues to keep the relationship safe. And if you dig deep, they are content… but bored to death."
It goes on about how "it is mentally healthy to allow
* the other the freedom of independence. It is after all the differences in each other that kept us interested when we first met. Fusion kills the spark of excitement of the unknown."
"Allowing your loved one the freedom to go out and do his, or her, own stuff is a gift to each other. It is a gift, which offers trust and freedom. What is wrong with letting the other take a separate holiday with a friend, go to the movies on their own, take a trip to climb mountains with others, join a sports club, have drinks with work colleagues, have separate friends that you don’t really like anyway… it’s all really about you each trying to find your own style of expressing your self again."
I just... have they been in a controlling relationship? Were they not allowed to do things on their own. It's very different to not WANTING to.
Ruth and I spend pretty much all day every day together. We are not bored. We enjoy the same things. We read fic and do fandom stuff together. We craft and write and draw and talk about so many things. The only limits on our life that bore us or hold us back are caused by health problems and lack of money. None of these things have anything to do with our co-dependant relationship.
I know this sort of relationship is not for everyone. My mother would hate it. Ruth's Mum and step dad have very little in common other than church but it works for them. I couldn't do that.
We have our own opinions on things, we have our own likes and dislikes but we haven't given up any of our passions to be together. We compromise on some things, every relationship does. We support each other through all the shit we have to deal with. We have some problems occasionally. Usually they come down to things like depression and anxiety and miscommunications sometimes complicated by Autism. We occasionally get frustrated but we talk and we work things out and we don't fight and we're happy. We're fucking solid.
So yes, we're 'fused'. Neither of us stops the other from doing anything they want to do (unless it's due to lack of money), we don't hold each other back, we hold each other up. It works for us and we're fucking lucky to find someone who matches up as well as we do.